10 Sizzling Secrets of Women Who Love Sex

"I always assumed I had a pretty decent sex life — that is, until my pal Heather dished the dirt on how she and her fiancé were regularly burning up their bedroom," recalls Justine, a 25-year-old paralegal. "Over lunch one day, she wickedly giggled that she was having incredible orgasms that gave her a round-the-clock, supersensual mind-set." After coaxing her highly satisfied pal to spill her prized secrets, Justine felt like she had stumbled onto a sexual pot of gold. "Heather's passion pointers have already taken my lust life from so-so to fantastically en fuego," says Justine.

So what did Justine learn from her doing-it demon pal? For starters, mattress megaprowess has nothing to do with possessing a perfect bod or loads of experience. What Heather and other vixens do have is a sex-cessful set of 10 pleasure principles they inherently follow.

Here, Cosmo's rounded up those randy rules so you too can become a member of the lusty ladies club — and keep your guy very, very grateful.

1. "I can switch on my sex drive."
Sensually supercharged women don't wait around patiently for the mood to strike. Instead, they set in motion the sex-psyching strategies that work for them every time.

"I conjure up a favorite fantasy — I imagine myself totally naked," reveals Cassie, a 29-year-old receptionist. "Whether I'm sitting behind my desk at work or I'm at the gym, I'll pretend my clothes are in a heap on the floor and that dozens of hungry male eyes are glued to my body."

Another libido-lifting trick is to wake up your senses: Spritz on your man's cologne, brush satiny fabric against your skin, or suck on some fruit. "Taking time to engage each sense — touch, taste, sound, scent, and sight — will quickly kick-start your lust drive," advises Susan Block, Ph.D., a sex therapist and radio show host.

2. "My body is my pleasure palace."
A desire diva doesn't waste time fretting about stubble and cellulite or wishing she didn't take so long to climax. Instead, she sees herself as a carnal conduit loaded with sensual capabilities. How did these chicks become so aware of their pleasure points? Chances are, they'll credit masturbation.

To get better acquainted with your sexual self, take their cue and become your own passion professor. "My husband constantly thanks me for having such a swinging solo sex life," says Kerry, 27, a chef. "It's given me the chance to seek out my innermost hot spots and teach myself how to have a mind-blowing string of O's."

Another hands-on advantage: You take charge of your orgasmic destiny. "When a guy can't find my G-spot, I'll gently take his fingers and guide them," says Christi, 32, a teacher. "He still gets to be the source of my pleasure, but I'm the one exploding with ecstasy."

3. "I know I'm a sex goddess."
"I usually do a little striptease before sex — first disrobing seductively in front of my guy, then finishing by shaking my butt," reveals Rebecca, a 29-year-old therapist. Hearing that, you'd assume Rebecca has a tush as tempting as Jennifer Lopez's. Surprise — she describes her behind as Flat City. "Long ago, I learned that men are turned on by a woman who is uninhibited about her sexuality," she says. "My current beau would rather date a confident woman with an imperfect figure than a 36-24-36 chick who's too timid to show her shape."

The tricky thing about sexual confidence, as any carnal cowgirl will admit, is that you need a little to begin with before it can blossom into a natural part of your passion personality. So how do you start? "Fake it at first — that's what I did," admits Bari, a 25-year-old designer. "My now-boyfriend was a coworker of mine whom I had a massive crush on. So I mentally made over my attitude from mousy staffer to office tramp, asked him out for a beer, and let my inner sex goddess loose. Six months of incredible action later, I still haven't reined in that attitude."

4. "I speak up for myself in the sack."
On-fire femmes know that men love to please. But even the most perceptive guy in the world won't have your moan zones all mapped out. "I tell my partners how I want to be touched," says Eliza, a 29-year-old psychologist. "Then I giggle and scream to reinforce what he's doing. I let guys know how to send me soaring."

If you're not used to being so erotically expressive, clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. Compliment him on what he does do well, then add a subtle suggestion: "It turns me on so much when you kiss my breasts, I'd go wild if you put your hand between my legs too."

Remember: This is the electronic age; email can also be an erotic way to detail your desire directions. "My man's usual sex style — fast thrusting — was too rough. So I sent him a sexy message saying I was imagining him rocking me to a gentle, slo-mo climax," recalls Marion, 24, a real estate agent. "That night, he begged me for a demo. He loved the lighter touch, and now we go slow each time." 

5. "It's not if I have an orgasm — it's how."
Women who ooze erotic energy don't view their Big O as a lucky bonus. Instead, reaching the pleasure pinnacle is their right. "Men don't consider it sex unless they have an orgasm," explains Maria, a 27-year-old sales assistant. "So why should I settle for almost-but-not-quite?" "I wish every woman would tattoo I deserve great sex on her brain," says Gina Ogden, Ph.D., author of Women Who Love Sex (Womanspirit, 1999). "Sexual satisfaction is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't expect to be peeled off the ceiling, it won't happen." So start believing that every-time orgasms aren't elusive rewards reserved for select women — they're yours for the taking. "Once I became confident I would be able to come, I started having earth-shaking climaxes," confirms Stephanie, a 23-year-old teaching assistant.

6. "I've mastered one signature sex move."
"Most women try to please their partners with direct below-the-belt stimulation, so I devote my time to a guy's lesser-known erogenous areas," explains Mary, a 26-year-old jewelry designer. Her favorite place: that fleshy, supersensual web of skin between the thumb and finger. "Most guys I've dated don't even know about this hot spot."

Lust fiends like Mary know that mastering at least one unique, naughty-but-nice move can morph you from a hot-and-heavy lover to holy moly! sex-partner status. But you don't have to focus on his G-rated hot spots alone or a specific sexual act. Your signature style can be about invoking an entire mood: sweetly simple, daring and dirty, or pushing the erotic envelope.s

Best Sex Position, kama sutra

Erotic Instructions:

Start with your guy sitting on the bench with his knees bent and legs slightly spread, leaning back with his arms outstretched and resting on the edge of the tub. Straddle him, facing forward, and lower yourself onto his penis, holding on to his shoulders for support. Keep your knees bent and feet flat as you move up and down or back and forth.

Why You'll Love It:

The space between your torsos allows both of you to watch the action. There's also room for pelvic play, so you can maximize clitoral stimulation by rubbing your bliss button against his pubic bone as you gyrate.

 

 

 

 

 

The Hot Seat

Erotic Instructions:

Have your partner kneel behind you, but tell him to lean slightly backward. With your back to him, you kneel in front of him, your legs between his. Your bodies should be squeezed together tightly. Wrap his arms around your waist and put your hands wherever you want (his forearms, hips, etc). Once he’s inside you, move up and down or swivel your hips in a circular motion in tandem, stopping to take breaks when you get too worked up or tired.

Why You'll Love It:

Since he’s tilting back, he has G-spot access. And this position allows for intense pressure since you’re meshing your butt super snugly with his groin.

 

The Soft Rock

Erotic Instructions:

Try this tantalizing twist on the typical missionary position (him on top, you on bottom). Instead of having your man rest on his elbows, ask him to slide two to four inches forward. Have him place his arms on either side of your shoulders, letting his body fall flat against yours. Make sure you both keep your spines straight. With your legs touching his, push your pelvis up about two inches. Your man should push down gently, providing a little counter-resistance. Instead of the usual in-and-out of thrusting, rock up and down.

Why You'll Love It:

Okay, so missionary doesn’t always make you quake. But because he’s in a more forward position, the base of his penis should naturally rub your clitoris. The rocking motion draws out the orgasm, building pleasure gradually. Because both sets of genitals are sharing such tight quarters, your climb to the climax will be intensified.

 

Lap Dance

Erotic Instructions:

Find a tall-backed chair — such as one from your kitchen table or a desk — pad it with some pillows, and sit him down. Straddle his hardened member and lean back slightly, placing your hands on his knees. Extend your legs, one at a time, until each of your ankles is resting on one of his corresponding shoulders. Pump your booty back and forth at a speed that makes you moan. To supercharge your thrusting power, balance your weight between your ankles and your hands.

Why You'll Love It:

The Lap Dance has unmatched intimacy potential — how many people have seen you this close? This primo erotic view will give your guy fantasy material for weeks to come. Spice it up with some extra-special lingerie that you can seductively toss to turn him on to add even more steam to this sack session.

 

 

Sexy Ways to Tease Him

IN PUBLIC
While ordering dinner, caress up his leg as high as you can get away with. If you’re feeling superdaring, reach inside his pants, and slip a hair tie around his penis — this gutsy move will keep him slightly stimulated all night.

People in crowded elevators usually look straight ahead, so sneakily grind your body against his or slide your palm over his butt while your unsuspecting co-riders watch the floors tick by.

If you're out together at a party or bar, send him either a scandalous text that hints at what you’d like to do to him later or, if you're a shier sexter, a corny line like "Nice shirt — it'll look better on the floor." Just knowing you have booty on the brain will have him aching to get you alone.

AROUND THE HOUSE
Catch him off guard by wondering aloud about places you could get busy. Ask something like "Hmmm, do you think this countertop would be the right height for me to straddle you?" then wander off as if it were just a fleeting idea.

Men are aroused by visual stimuli, so a nonverbal come-on can make him hungry. Toy with him by bending slowly to pick up something in a short skirt or blow-drying your hair in jeans and a bra. Act like you don’t know he’s watching — it’ll arouse the hell out of him.

When he has friends over, yell from another room that you need help with something. When he enters, give him a deep kiss and graze his package. Then halt the grope sesh, and make him return to his guests like a good boy.
 
IN BED

As things get going, leave on one item of clothing. Pulling your thong aside for him to enter you torments him because he can’t see every last inch of your body. It also creates gotta-have-you-now urgency that is just so hot.

Slowly head downtown with playful licks that start at his chest and move down his stomach. Trace your fingers up and down his torso as you kiss in circles around his groin and inner thighs — everywhere except his package — until he’s begging you to take him into your mouth.

If you’re on top during sex, stop the action, then crawl down his body until you’re perched at the end of the bed. Give him a “Want it? Then come and get it!” grin. Then prepare to be pounced on.

25 Hottest Sex Tips Ever

1. Play Up His Deep Pockets

When he's least expecting it, tell your man you need some change. Then stick your hand in his pocket and touch his penis through the fabric, pretending that you're really digging around for that coinage you need. When he's good and hard, whisper something in his ear like, "Is that a roll of quarters in your pocket or are you just glad to see me?" He'll practically bust out of his pants. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

2. Pop His Cork

Try the oral-sex technique “The Screw.” As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum — that part of the shaft just beneath the head — be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down — you're also going sideways. It's 3-D! —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

3. Get Dirty in the Tub

Before you get it on, take a bath together. Bring out the candles and fluffy towels, then put two drops of patchouli oil, three drops of sandalwood oil, and three drops of lavender oil into your bathwater. Patchouli and sandalwood are awakens sensuality, and lavender induces relaxation. The combination of scents and warm-water sensations will completely prime your bodies — and minds. For a truly sensual and erotic experience try this water-friendly sex position. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

4. Strut Your Stuff

The next time you go out with your man, wear your sexiest outfit. Sometimes you have to remind your guy that you're a prize, not an appendage. It really turns most guys on to know they have someone other men want to be with. And it can be a tremendous ego boost for you, too. When you feel sexy, you are sexy. Once you return home from your diva-date, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

5. Touch Yourself... With His Penis

Shake up your pre-sex routine by pressing his penis against surprising parts of your body. Try these frisky ideas. Hold his penis against your inner thigh to tease him like crazy; touch the tip of his penis against your breast, and rub his frenulum against your nipple; or bring the side of his shaft against the outside of one of your cheeks, then put it up to your lips and cover it with wet kisses. —Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes 

6. Unhand Your Man

Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, slowly undress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. Then, keeping your hands at your side or behind your back, stroke his body (all except for his penis) with your face, hair, and breasts. Once he's totally relaxed, rub your breasts against his penis and he'll happily rise to the occasion. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

7.Try Finger-Food Foreplay

Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something sensual about placing food in your partner's mouth. After a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

8. Love Your Booty

Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body. If this feels awkward, get ready or blow out your hair while standing naked in front of the mirror. By getting used to your unique shape, you'll gain confidence that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your guy. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

9. Slip into a Naughty Costume

Try one of these outfits since they'll help you get in the moment. If you’re feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton undie set or sexy lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or don a schoolgirl-like plaid miniskirt with an oxford shirt tied above your navel. To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and inspiration. —Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off

10. Pleasure His Penis

Cup your hand around his member, creating a "bun" around his "hot dog." Then kiss the part of his penis that's exposed while breathing hard. Your hand will trap your exhalations and make his penis feel superhot. With your other hand, work his testicles. He'll think he has died and gone to heaven. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

11. Keep Your Pants On

Encourage your man to touch you when you have your favorite tight jeans on (and don't let him take them off). His hand can glide over your crotch more easily, and the material will transmit the sensations over a wider area. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

12. Toy with Him

Stock up on sex toys like velvet-lined handcuffs and silk blindfolds. You can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it. It will feel amazing for you, and he'll be turned on just by seeing you so turned on. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

13. Pucker Up

Share a passionate 10-second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex but stop really kissing. And that's a shame, because it's such a wonderful, intimate act. So just go up and lay one on him. Instantly, you'll feel passionate instead of platonic. What a rush! —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

14. Touch a (Sensual) Nerve

One of the most explosive nerves in the body is located at the top of the inner thigh. Start by licking your finger (the wetness increases the stimulation) and slowly drawing it from the mid–inner thigh to the top. Then follow the path you just traced with your tongue, teasing your way to the upper region. Because the skin here is tender, it's important to watch how he reacts. If he flinches, you're exciting the nerve to the point where it feels too ticklish. If he flinches, give the area firmer kisses. —Lori Buckley, PhD, of The Better Sex Video Series

15. Have Hotel Sex at Home

Try re-creating the away-from-home atmosphere in your own bedroom. Buy sheets with the highest threads-per-inch count you can find (look for 200 and above), and invest in some thick, fluffy robes to lounge around in. You'll both feel like you're on an incredible vacation from the rest of the world.
—Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

16. Make It a Quickie

If you're turned on at an inopportune time and in semi-public place, act on your feelings. Although it feels a little bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have affairs solely for the illicit rush from doing something "bad." Quickies allow you to experience all of the having-an-affair thrill with none of the cheating. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

17. Keep Your Eyes Open

Watching his every move while you’re hooking up is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during foreplay. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. You'll experience your orgasm in a totally different way. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

18. Tune in to His Heartbeat

You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Lay your hand on his chest, and have him do the same. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand-to-heart connected while you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

19. Give Him Props

Great sex is all about angles — the angle of his erection and your pelvis determine exactly what hot spots he'll hit and how tightly he'll feel gripped. That's why pillows can be passion's best friend. Try one under his butt while you're on top or supporting your tailbone in the missionary position. You'll be surprised how many new sensations you both experience just by adding a pillow. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On 

20. Let Go Loudly!

Moan, let out animalistic noises or shout his name — whatever you have the urge to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make him feel like the stud of the universe. Bonus: Your orgasms will be even more powerful if you really let 'er rip vocally. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

21. Just Add Lube

Your guy has what it takes to get you off, but there's one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable. And because you're wetter, he’ll feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions. —Eric Garrison, author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex

22. Turn-Around... and Turn Him On

Face his legs instead of his face when you're on top. (Hold on to his feet for balance.) He'll get a great view of your backside — a surefire turn-on. And if his erection points straight out instead of up, this position will feel especially incredible to him. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

23. Be the Boss in Bed

Tell your guy to lie down, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you. Next, you want to torture him playfully with your teasing. Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck. As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad. Once he’s pleaded his case allow him to take over. —Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do

24. Don't Wait to Exhale

You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm. With each exhalation, imagine that you're pushing the satisfying sensations throughout your body — instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel the orgasm from head to toe. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

25. Maximize Each Moment

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4 Things to Never Joke About With Your Man

For most guys, a kick-ass sense of humor in a woman ranks right up there with a nice rack. And though we pride ourselves on being able to take ribbing as well as we dish it out, some material is just no laughing matter to us. Consider the following subjects unsuitable comic fodder.
His Future Hair Loss
With the exception of Hollywood types like Vin Diesel, most guys with shiny chrome domes are not deemed the sexiest man alive. That's why many guys stress about potential future loss. And if there's even a hint of thinning, it's certain to be a really sore subject. "I once had a date joke that I better grab a hat because it was chilly outside and she didn't want my scalp to catch a cold," says Rich*, 30. "Look I know my lid is starting to look a little lean, but I don't need a woman reminding me…even if it's in jest."

His Paltry Payback
Yes, it's a little Stone Age, but we men consider it our manly obligation to bring home the bacon. When our salary doesn't stack up, we feel totally emasculated. It's like we measure our worth in a relationship to our wallet (or at least we think you do). So you can see why kidding around about your sugar-mama status isn't exactly our idea of stand-up. "I know it's wrong, but I'm embarrassed that my girlfriend outearns me," admits Andrew, 28. "She once made a quip about letting me stay home Mr.Mom -style while she supported us, and I lost it. We've since come to an understanding that until I hit the lottery or open my own restaurant, money is something that can't be taken lightly." Bottom line: It's not that we don't appreciate your alpha-female status. We just don't want to be your beta boy toy.

His Mom
It's a rule that dates back to the playgroud: Once you start dissing a boy's mother, things are going to get ugly. Sure, he's allowed to goof on her Hawaiian muumuus, burned Bundt cake, and obsession with Richard Simmons, but when you chime in, it's a different story. "I love my mom to death. She's a total character," says Josh, 30. "I bust on her nonstop, and she gives it right back to me. But if my girlfriend added her two cents, I'd find it totally disrespectful." Bonus tip: Sisters are untouchable too.
His Member
In a nutshell, keep Johnson jokes to yourself—especially if you ever want his penis to come out to play again. Our "boys" are serious business. There's nothing comedic about commentary on any of the following: size (or more accurately, lack thereof), shape, and color. Just ask Bill, 26: "I'm sensitive about the fact that my package is a shade darker than the rest of my flesh. I was once with a girl who took one look, giggled, and named him the Dark Horse. It made me so self-conscious that I couldn't perform." Your best bet? Stay mute about his member…unless you feel compelled to characterize it as monstrous.
*Names have been changed.

 

12 Romance Rituals to Start

Sex and love adivce , relationship article " Keep romance alive"

 

1. Dream Up a Hot Vacation
Get out of your cold-weather rut by fantasizing about a sexy European getaway with your guy. While the two of you are sipping coffee and sharing the Sunday paper, take a detour to the travel section. Grab your guy’s attention by reading an irresistible description of some totally romantic locale (charming old cities, a lush green countryside, gorgeous sunsets, and delicious local dishes should capture his attention pretty quickly). Then start concocting your own ultimate escape together.
2. Be Spontaneous About Your Dinner Dates
Excited to go out to eat but can't pick a place? Start by making a list of some restaurants in your town — include a few you know you like and several that you want to try. Then write the name of each on the back of a scrap of paper, fold it in half, and drop it into an empty bowl. From now on, instead of going back and forth about where to eat on a Friday or Saturday night, just draw a name from the bowl and embrace the surprise.
3. Create Mood Music
Sunday nights can leave you and your man with a sinking feeling about the upcoming workweek. But why ruin those last hours of freedom when they could be romantic? Here’s what to do: Create a couple's play list of good-time tunes that you can crank up anytime to change the vibe from sullen to sexy. Each of you contributes your favorite upbeat songs; call it your Sunday mix. Every few weeks, delete the ones you’re sick of and add some new hits.
4. Plan Two Hot Dates with Him
Instead of orchestrating a perfect evening you’ll both love, make a deal that you’ll do whatever he wants one night as long as he does the same for you the other night. Even if he plans an über–guyfriendly date (you know, Beirut at the sports bar followed by Texas BBQ), it’s all good. Just think, you’ll finally get him to take you to that cute new café you’ve been eyeing, and afterward you can curl up and watch season one of True Blood on DVD.
5. Have a Sexy Sleepover
Sometime this week, e-mail your guy, and tell him to reserve Friday night but not to worry about coming up with a date idea — you’ll plan everything. Then, before he shows up, turn your place into a low-key bed-and-breakfast with fresh linens on the bed, the ingredients for his drink of choice, and a season of his favorite TV show on DVD. Once he arrives, order delivery for dinner, and get in “do not disturb” mode by turning off your cell phones. We trust you know the rest.
6. Partake in an Intimate Picnic
Eat outside Parisian-style in the park with your guy on the next nice weekend afternoon. Buy some Brie, chèvre, or mimolette (a tasty, hard French cheese), fruit, a baguette, and Georges Duboeuf Beaujolais (a delicious French wine that comes in cute mini fourpacks — the perfect picnic size). Glam up the meal by bringing wineglasses and china plates. Then spread out a blanket on the grass and take turns feeding each other, while you soak up the sunshine.

7. Treat Him to a Rubdown
In the middle of the day, shoot your guy the following text: “Hot date tonight. 8 pm sharp." When he shows up, dim the lights, put on some chill tunes, and ask him to lie facedown on your couch or bed (oh, and the shirt’s gotta come off). Once he’s in relax mode, give him a nice, long back rub with massage oil. (Tip: Guys tend to prefer earthy scented oils, like pine and eucalyptus, rather than rosy ones). This special treatment will remind him that he’s one hell of a lucky guy to have you.
8. Take a Steamy Bath Together
Showering solo is so 9 to 5. When you have a lazy weekend morning, take advantage of it. While he’s still in bed, run the water, light a few candles for atmosphere, and cue up a chill playlist from your iPod. Then wake him up with a gentle kiss, lure him into the bathroom, and use a sweet-smelling scrub to rub each other down.
9. Plan an All-Out Date on the Town
Make your next date night extra-special for no reason in particular. Dress up in your sexiest cocktail attire, ask him to don a suit, and head off on a romantic rendezvous. Check out a wine tasting in your area (localwineevents.com has a listing by city), then splurge on a fancy meal or a decadent dessert at a nice restaurant.
10. Bond Over Cooking Together
Preparing a meal together can really help you connect. Start by finding an easy but special recipe, and forget the usual routine of who-does-what in the kitchen. All that time spent chopping and simmering is conducive to catching up after a chaotic workweek.
11. Play a Passionate Game
Challenge your man to a retro board game — think Life or Trouble — or a round of bowling or minigolf and it’ll light a spark between you two. Getting competitive eliminates weekday stress, encourages flirting, and builds sexual fervor. Hint: Make a bet that the loser has to give the winner a full-body massage.
12. Take Him on a “Boys’ Night Out”
Treat your boyfriend or hubby to a date that's all about him. Text him Friday morning, and tell him to leave the night open. Then pick him up from work, and whisk him away to a burger joint where you can dig into some red meat together and enjoy a few beers. Follow it up with tickets to a basketball game or a movie he’s been dying to see.