25 Hottest Sex Tips Ever

1. Play Up His Deep Pockets

When he's least expecting it, tell your man you need some change. Then stick your hand in his pocket and touch his penis through the fabric, pretending that you're really digging around for that coinage you need. When he's good and hard, whisper something in his ear like, "Is that a roll of quarters in your pocket or are you just glad to see me?" He'll practically bust out of his pants. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

2. Pop His Cork

Try the oral-sex technique “The Screw.” As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum — that part of the shaft just beneath the head — be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down — you're also going sideways. It's 3-D! —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

3. Get Dirty in the Tub

Before you get it on, take a bath together. Bring out the candles and fluffy towels, then put two drops of patchouli oil, three drops of sandalwood oil, and three drops of lavender oil into your bathwater. Patchouli and sandalwood are awakens sensuality, and lavender induces relaxation. The combination of scents and warm-water sensations will completely prime your bodies — and minds. For a truly sensual and erotic experience try this water-friendly sex position. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

4. Strut Your Stuff

The next time you go out with your man, wear your sexiest outfit. Sometimes you have to remind your guy that you're a prize, not an appendage. It really turns most guys on to know they have someone other men want to be with. And it can be a tremendous ego boost for you, too. When you feel sexy, you are sexy. Once you return home from your diva-date, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

5. Touch Yourself... With His Penis

Shake up your pre-sex routine by pressing his penis against surprising parts of your body. Try these frisky ideas. Hold his penis against your inner thigh to tease him like crazy; touch the tip of his penis against your breast, and rub his frenulum against your nipple; or bring the side of his shaft against the outside of one of your cheeks, then put it up to your lips and cover it with wet kisses. —Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes 

6. Unhand Your Man

Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, slowly undress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. Then, keeping your hands at your side or behind your back, stroke his body (all except for his penis) with your face, hair, and breasts. Once he's totally relaxed, rub your breasts against his penis and he'll happily rise to the occasion. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

7.Try Finger-Food Foreplay

Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something sensual about placing food in your partner's mouth. After a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

8. Love Your Booty

Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body. If this feels awkward, get ready or blow out your hair while standing naked in front of the mirror. By getting used to your unique shape, you'll gain confidence that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your guy. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

9. Slip into a Naughty Costume

Try one of these outfits since they'll help you get in the moment. If you’re feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton undie set or sexy lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or don a schoolgirl-like plaid miniskirt with an oxford shirt tied above your navel. To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and inspiration. —Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off

10. Pleasure His Penis

Cup your hand around his member, creating a "bun" around his "hot dog." Then kiss the part of his penis that's exposed while breathing hard. Your hand will trap your exhalations and make his penis feel superhot. With your other hand, work his testicles. He'll think he has died and gone to heaven. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

11. Keep Your Pants On

Encourage your man to touch you when you have your favorite tight jeans on (and don't let him take them off). His hand can glide over your crotch more easily, and the material will transmit the sensations over a wider area. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

12. Toy with Him

Stock up on sex toys like velvet-lined handcuffs and silk blindfolds. You can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it. It will feel amazing for you, and he'll be turned on just by seeing you so turned on. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

13. Pucker Up

Share a passionate 10-second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex but stop really kissing. And that's a shame, because it's such a wonderful, intimate act. So just go up and lay one on him. Instantly, you'll feel passionate instead of platonic. What a rush! —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

14. Touch a (Sensual) Nerve

One of the most explosive nerves in the body is located at the top of the inner thigh. Start by licking your finger (the wetness increases the stimulation) and slowly drawing it from the mid–inner thigh to the top. Then follow the path you just traced with your tongue, teasing your way to the upper region. Because the skin here is tender, it's important to watch how he reacts. If he flinches, you're exciting the nerve to the point where it feels too ticklish. If he flinches, give the area firmer kisses. —Lori Buckley, PhD, of The Better Sex Video Series

15. Have Hotel Sex at Home

Try re-creating the away-from-home atmosphere in your own bedroom. Buy sheets with the highest threads-per-inch count you can find (look for 200 and above), and invest in some thick, fluffy robes to lounge around in. You'll both feel like you're on an incredible vacation from the rest of the world.
—Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

16. Make It a Quickie

If you're turned on at an inopportune time and in semi-public place, act on your feelings. Although it feels a little bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have affairs solely for the illicit rush from doing something "bad." Quickies allow you to experience all of the having-an-affair thrill with none of the cheating. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

17. Keep Your Eyes Open

Watching his every move while you’re hooking up is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during foreplay. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. You'll experience your orgasm in a totally different way. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

18. Tune in to His Heartbeat

You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Lay your hand on his chest, and have him do the same. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand-to-heart connected while you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

19. Give Him Props

Great sex is all about angles — the angle of his erection and your pelvis determine exactly what hot spots he'll hit and how tightly he'll feel gripped. That's why pillows can be passion's best friend. Try one under his butt while you're on top or supporting your tailbone in the missionary position. You'll be surprised how many new sensations you both experience just by adding a pillow. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On 

20. Let Go Loudly!

Moan, let out animalistic noises or shout his name — whatever you have the urge to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make him feel like the stud of the universe. Bonus: Your orgasms will be even more powerful if you really let 'er rip vocally. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

21. Just Add Lube

Your guy has what it takes to get you off, but there's one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable. And because you're wetter, he’ll feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions. —Eric Garrison, author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex

22. Turn-Around... and Turn Him On

Face his legs instead of his face when you're on top. (Hold on to his feet for balance.) He'll get a great view of your backside — a surefire turn-on. And if his erection points straight out instead of up, this position will feel especially incredible to him. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

23. Be the Boss in Bed

Tell your guy to lie down, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you. Next, you want to torture him playfully with your teasing. Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck. As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad. Once he’s pleaded his case allow him to take over. —Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do

24. Don't Wait to Exhale

You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm. With each exhalation, imagine that you're pushing the satisfying sensations throughout your body — instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel the orgasm from head to toe. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

25. Maximize Each Moment

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