V for Vixen, sex position

V for Vixen

Erotic Instructions:

Sit on a counter and have your man stand facing you. His legs should be slightly bent, spaced 3 feet apart. With your arms on his shoulders and his arms around your lower back, slowly pull your right leg up and prop your right foot on his left shoulder. Then pull your left leg up and prop your left foot on his right shoulder.

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Why You'll Love It:

Most men are so inflexible, they think a knee bend is an Olympic feat, so he’ll worship you as a sex goddess.

 

Bootyful View, sex position

Bootyful View

Erotic Instructions:

Have your man sit up on the bed so that his legs are extended horizontally toward the foot of the bed. Turn around and straddle him — with your back toward him — and then lower yourself onto his erect penis. Extend your legs back so they are almost behind him, relaxing your torso onto the bed between his feet. Slide up and down and use his feet for leverage.

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Why You'll Love It:

This position allows for great control over speed, depth, and intensity of stimulation. Since you’re facing away, you can feel totally uninhibited, and your partner can enjoy the thrill of the ride.

 

The Hot Rod, sex position

The Hot Rod

Erotic Instructions:

Place an antislip bath mat in a tub with a showerhead. Then stand facing the curtain with the liner outside the tub. Rest one foot on the edge of the tub as you reach up and check that the rod is securely fastened to the wall. If so, grip the rod with both hands to steady yourself (not to hang on). Your man holds your waist as he enters you from behind.

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Why You'll Love It:

This hands-on-the-rod pose gives your guy free rein to explore every inch of your body as the water cascades over both of you. And since you can’t anticipate his next move, every caress will be a sultry surprise.

 

The G-Force, sex position

The G-Force

Erotic Instructions:

Lie down on your back and pull your knees close to your chest. Ask your guy to kneel in front of you, grabbing hold of your feet with his hands. Have him penetrate you, thrusting forward from his hips. Looking to add even more God-that’s-good action? Put your feet on his chest and have him hold on to your hips — it’ll give him extra control and let him plunge even farther.

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Why You'll Love It:

You have to hand over the reins to him, but it’s worth it. For those who know the power of the G-spot, the deep, intense penetration will send you spinning. And there’s no reason he can’t be doing double duty. The G-Force is the perfect position for him to be inside you while using his hand to stimulate your clitoris. If you can surrender your on-top status, this is one position where the Force will be with you.

 

The Erotic Roller Coaster

Erotic Instructions:

As your guy lies on his back, straddle him facing his feet. Sitting up straight with your hands on his hips, grind into him slowly for a few minutes, building up intense sensations. Think of the slow climb at the beginning of a roller coaster ride. Then, once you have the ideal angle, you can speed up, letting loose as you vary the depth of penetration. Next, lean back, steadying yourself with your hands (placed next to his sides) until your back presses against his chest. Then bring the racy ride back up again, and repeat until you’re both fully thrilled. Whee!

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Why You'll Love It:

Because there’s little eye contact, your man feels free to engage in reckless role-playing, a major turn-on for you both. And when you lean back, he’ll be able to caress your breasts, stomach, and clitoris, giving your hot bod the attention it deserves.

 

The Linguini, Sex position

The Linguini

Erotic Instructions:

Lie on your side, putting a pillow under your head for extra support. Your man kneels directly behind your butt, leaning ever-so-slightly over your body. He should push one of his knees between your legs, positioning his body so he can penetrate you. He places one hand on your back to help support himself as he goes for the plunge. The key to your pleasure is keeping your limbs as limp as a noodle.

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Why You'll Love It:

This side-by-side canoodle creates incredible friction for him because your thighs are so close together. Plus, having your thigh curved at that angle gives him deeper access. The combo of these two will make even the tiniest guy feel like a god! And while he teases your G-spot, he can nuzzle your breasts or reach around and play with your clitoris — covering all the pleasure bases.

 

The Wanton Wheelbarrow, Sex position

The Wanton Wheelbarrow

Erotic Instructions:

Start by standing and facing a bed or a chair. Bend over until your head and arms are resting on its surface. Have your man stand behind you and grab one of your ankles. Make sure to keep your knee slightly bent as you shift your weight to the leg that's still on the ground. Lifting your foot to rest near his hip, he should enter you from behind.

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Why You'll Love It:

The Wanton Wheelbarrow is a rockin' alternative for those addicted to the angles and impact of any from-behind ride. Because your legs are pointed in opposite directions — one in the air and one on the ground — he's in perfect position to hit that oh-my-God G-spot. Plus, your man will be seriously turned on by the access to your posterior — have him give you a mini rear rubdown.

Frisky Floor Show, Sex position

Frisky Floor Show

Erotic Instructions:

Stand with your back to your man, then bend over slowly and put your palms on the floor. (If flexibility isn’t your strong suit, simply bend your knees to adjust.) Have him enter you from behind, wrapping one of his arms around your waist so neither of you loses your balance. Should you start to go off kilter, press your hands firmly to the floor to steady yourself. If you want, grab some pillows for underneath your hands for extra support and comfort on your way to seventh heaven.

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Why You'll Love It:

This position elevates your buttocks, allowing him to thrust downward at a unique angle. The internal pressure created by the force of his thrusting will stimulate your clitoris from the inside. Plus, the southern direction of his plunge will increase his chances of hitting your ultrasensitive G-spot.

 

Leg Lock, Sex position

Leg Lock

Erotic Instructions:

This one was made for the kitchen countertop. Hop up there and assume the spread-eagle position. With your man between your linked legs, have him thrust inside you. You’ll be creating megaheat in a minimal amount of time.

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Why You'll Love It:

Let’s face it, sometimes you’re not in the mood for languid, last-forever lovin’. Every now and then, you’re so horny that you just want to orgasm — pronto! This move was made for those nights when you and your man can barely make it through the front door. There’s no question you both will come quickly with this deeper-than-deep plunging. Plus, men get off on the novelty of doing it somewhere new — to them, out of the bedroom equals no-holds-barred sex.

 

The Head Over Heels, sex position

The Head Over Heels

Erotic Instructions:

Start by lowering yourself to your knees and crossing your arms on the ground in front of you, using a pillow to cushion your elbows. Stick your butt in the air and rest your head on your arms, bracing it on the floor if you need to. Tell your man to stand behind you and lift your legs up by your ankles until your body is almost perpendicular to the floor. Keep your knees bent and have him enter you from behind.

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Why You'll Love It:

Two words: deep impact. This position has all the benefits of any rear-entry move, with the bonus of gravity on your side. Encourage him to take the plunge by telling him exactly how good his member feels. Plus, your practically upside-down body position will give the whole experience a brand new spin.

 

Sex Position, Sexy Scissors

Sexy Scissors

Erotic Instructions:

You lie faceup on a desk or tabletop with your hips perched on the very edge. Raise your legs to an eye-popping 90-degree angle, then have your guy grab your ankles. He extends his arms out to his sides, and as your legs are spread-eagle, he enters you while standing. Next, he starts alternately crossing and spreading your legs like scissors, opening and closing as he thrusts.

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Why You'll Love It:

No other love lock will offer you such a body-rockin' range of sensations. One second your limbs are in an erotic X and you're supertight for a snug fit — then suddenly you're wide open and able to take him in deliciously deep. We guarantee these thigh-melting maneuvers will lead to a whoa-baby wave of Os.

 

Sex Position ,The Wanton Wheelbarrow

Sex Position

The Wanton Wheelbarrow

Erotic Instructions:

Start by standing and facing a bed or a chair. Bend over until your head and arms are resting on its surface. Have your man stand behind you and grab one of your ankles. Make sure to keep your knee slightly bent as you shift your weight to the leg that's still on the ground. Lifting your foot to rest near his hip, he should enter you from behind.

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Why You'll Love It:

The Wanton Wheelbarrow is a rockin' alternative for those addicted to the angles and impact of any from-behind ride. Because your legs are pointed in opposite directions — one in the air and one on the ground — he's in perfect position to hit that oh-my-God G-spot. Plus, your man will be seriously turned on by the access to your posterior — have him give you a mini rear rubdown.

The Wow-Him Powwow

Erotic Instructions:

Sit your man down with his legs crossed. Facing him, straddle his legs and lower yourself into his lap — without him penetrating you. Wrap your legs around either side of his torso, so they’re hugging his buttocks. Then, as you hold each other’s arms or lower backs tightly, he enters you. Start to slowly rock back and forth together, increasing your speed as you come closer to climaxing.

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Why You'll Love It:

Like the standard missionary position, this takes eye contact and body-to-body closeness to the max but adds a passion perk. The comfy upright pose encourages equal control over the speed and timing of his thrusting, allowing for a gradual buildup of pleasure for both partners. Plus, your clitoris is at an easy-to-reach angle, allowing him to stroke your love button without interrupting the hot-and-heavy action.

The Ride of Your Life

Erotic Instructions:

Your guy lies on his back. Facing him, lower yourself onto his penis in a kneeling position. Keeping your knees on the bed, curl your feet around the inside of his legs, likely around his knees. Lean forward and grab the bedsheets on either side of his head. While holding the sheets — and your feet wrapped around your man’s calves — squeeze your butt, tilt your pelvis, and move in small, tight motions.

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Why You'll Love It:

Giddy up! By gripping the bedsheets and using the self-created “stirrups,” this quasi-cowgirl configuration offers lots of leverage — you’ll maintain a steady rhythm without losing momentum before reaching orgasmville. And since your body is positioned higher than in the typical girl-on-top, your clitoris can easily rub against his pubic bone.

The Erotic End

Erotic Instructions:

Sit your lover on the floor with his legs stretched out comfortably in front of him. Have him lean back slightly, using his arms to support his weight. With your back to him and your legs straddling his thighs, lower yourself onto him. Keep your knees bent and your feet planted on the floor. With your groins grinding together, squeeze your PC muscles while he makes small circular rotations with his pelvis.

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Why You'll Love It:

With you on top, sometimes hitting your G-spot can be a little tricky. But turn your back on him (in a good way!) and the whole landscape changes. This position keeps you in control but affords him a much more direct shot at your can’t-take-it-anymore zone. Meanwhile, he can kiss your neck, caress your inner thighs, and stroke other easy-to-access erogenous areas.

 

The Sea Horse

Erotic Instructions:

Have your man lie on his back, facing the ocean, with his legs straight out in front of him and in the water. He can prop himself up on his forearms if he doesn’t want to get his hair full of sand. Straddle his lap while facing away from him and slowly lower yourself onto his ­member. Rest your hands on his pelvic area or thighs to help propel you.

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Why You'll Love It:

This passion position allows for deliciously deep penetration — and gives your guy a mouthwatering view of your bootie bobbing up and down — as the ocean washes over your bottom halves.

 

Why Love Is Harder in Winter

Winter is full of opportunities to get close: romantic fires, holidays galore, snuggle­-friendly weather. Yet the season can be tough on your love life. According to a recent survey, couples are more than twice as likely to think about splitting between the holidays and Valentine's Day, due in part to the pressure the high ­intensity period puts on twosomes during this time. But also because scientific reasons compound that stress: "Our energy levels are lower during the cold weather, and we tend to be moodier," explains clinical psychologist Seth Meyers, PhD. "Both factors make maintaining a relationship difficult."
You can't beat Mother Nature, but you can learn to spot these pesky relationship-­killing winter symptoms and take the necessary steps to keep your bond going strong.
You're Looking for a Fight
Bitchy 'tudes have a habit of cropping up in the winter — in women and men. Being cooped up inside together for months at a time with fewer options for activities can contribute. But more important, the season's shortage of sunlight lowers our levels of the mood­-regulating neurotransmitter serotonin, says couples therapist Barton Gold smith, PhD, author of Emotional Fitness for Intimacy. This makes you more cranky than in the summer, when most people enjoy up to 15 hours of mood­-boosting sunlight a day.
If you find yourself ready to let the nastiness fly over, well, everything, Goldsmith suggests making it a habit for you both to get outside whenever you can…even if it's only during your lunch break. Being in the sun (wearing sunscreen, of course) for a short amount of time is believed to raise both serotonin and vitamin-­D levels, which will make the two of you feel more like making love, not war.
You Feel Gross
After braving the cold, it's great to come home and enjoy some warm, filling comfort food, like a steaming bowl of pasta. And since getting out of bed in the morning is harder, you need to drink a couple of extra cups of coffee to perk up. And the fact that it gets dark so early means that you're ready for your first glass of wine earlier. See where we're going with this?
"We have a natural tendency to OD on carbs, stimulants, and alcohol in the winter to boost our moods temporarily," says nutritional psychologist Julia Ross, author of The Mood Cure. "It's one way we try to compensate for the lack of sun." Thing is, going overboard not only makes you feel worse in general but also can cause you to think of yourself as less attractive and eat even more to comfort yourself. And that means you'll have a harder time being excited about a night out on the town with your BF in your skintight LBD.
To break the cycle, make it a point for you and your guy to eat high-protein foods that have serotonin-boosting nutrients — like lean steaks, fish fillets, cottage cheese, and eggs. And avoid the common trap of overloading on carbs in the morning (though it's fine to have some). You'll feel better and have higher energy levels to use on whatever strenuous indoor activity you may choose.
You're Not in the Mood for Sex
Extra padding can make you feel less than sexy, and high levels of melatonin — another light-sensitive brain chemical — from lack of sunlight make you want to fall asleep when you get horizontal instead of staying up to make out. But that's not the only reason sex suffers in the winter. "Most women have relatively low levels of testosterone and, therefore, need an emotional connection to get in the mood," says Pat Love, EdD, author of The Truth About Love. If the winter is making both you and your guy cranky, it can be a hell of a lot harder to make that happen.
When you notice a seasonal sex nosedive, Love suggests grabbing your guy and hitting the gym together. Or for bonus points, head outside on sunny days and go for a run or have a snowball fight to nab some natural light. Not only will you both get an endorphin rush from the exercise, but you'll also raise your serotonin levels and lower your melatonin levels, making you alert and ready for action.
Oh, and once you're back inside, throw on one of his sweaters with nothing underneath. It'll hide any problem areas — though odds are, your guy digs your winter curves — and get you both turned on.

 

Depressed about broken engagement

Depressed about broken engagement
I got engaged to a girl about a year back. It was arranged by my parents and like an obedient son i followed their orders. Naturally i shared this news with my colleagues and threw a party and celebrated big time but the engagement broke off after sometime. Now i had to tell the same colleagues all over again about the reasons for the engagement breaking-off a 100 times and now i am completely fed up with this.
I am very depressed and cant concentrate on anything. My parents dont understand my problem and are looking for other relations for my marriage.
I am even feeling suicidal because i am ashamed in front of my colleagues and not getting any support from parents and friends. Nobody seems to sympathesize with me and is busy doing his own thing.
Please advise. 

10 Sizzling Secrets of Women Who Love Sex

"I always assumed I had a pretty decent sex life — that is, until my pal Heather dished the dirt on how she and her fiancé were regularly burning up their bedroom," recalls Justine, a 25-year-old paralegal. "Over lunch one day, she wickedly giggled that she was having incredible orgasms that gave her a round-the-clock, supersensual mind-set." After coaxing her highly satisfied pal to spill her prized secrets, Justine felt like she had stumbled onto a sexual pot of gold. "Heather's passion pointers have already taken my lust life from so-so to fantastically en fuego," says Justine.

So what did Justine learn from her doing-it demon pal? For starters, mattress megaprowess has nothing to do with possessing a perfect bod or loads of experience. What Heather and other vixens do have is a sex-cessful set of 10 pleasure principles they inherently follow.

Here, Cosmo's rounded up those randy rules so you too can become a member of the lusty ladies club — and keep your guy very, very grateful.

1. "I can switch on my sex drive."
Sensually supercharged women don't wait around patiently for the mood to strike. Instead, they set in motion the sex-psyching strategies that work for them every time.

"I conjure up a favorite fantasy — I imagine myself totally naked," reveals Cassie, a 29-year-old receptionist. "Whether I'm sitting behind my desk at work or I'm at the gym, I'll pretend my clothes are in a heap on the floor and that dozens of hungry male eyes are glued to my body."

Another libido-lifting trick is to wake up your senses: Spritz on your man's cologne, brush satiny fabric against your skin, or suck on some fruit. "Taking time to engage each sense — touch, taste, sound, scent, and sight — will quickly kick-start your lust drive," advises Susan Block, Ph.D., a sex therapist and radio show host.

2. "My body is my pleasure palace."
A desire diva doesn't waste time fretting about stubble and cellulite or wishing she didn't take so long to climax. Instead, she sees herself as a carnal conduit loaded with sensual capabilities. How did these chicks become so aware of their pleasure points? Chances are, they'll credit masturbation.

To get better acquainted with your sexual self, take their cue and become your own passion professor. "My husband constantly thanks me for having such a swinging solo sex life," says Kerry, 27, a chef. "It's given me the chance to seek out my innermost hot spots and teach myself how to have a mind-blowing string of O's."

Another hands-on advantage: You take charge of your orgasmic destiny. "When a guy can't find my G-spot, I'll gently take his fingers and guide them," says Christi, 32, a teacher. "He still gets to be the source of my pleasure, but I'm the one exploding with ecstasy."

3. "I know I'm a sex goddess."
"I usually do a little striptease before sex — first disrobing seductively in front of my guy, then finishing by shaking my butt," reveals Rebecca, a 29-year-old therapist. Hearing that, you'd assume Rebecca has a tush as tempting as Jennifer Lopez's. Surprise — she describes her behind as Flat City. "Long ago, I learned that men are turned on by a woman who is uninhibited about her sexuality," she says. "My current beau would rather date a confident woman with an imperfect figure than a 36-24-36 chick who's too timid to show her shape."

The tricky thing about sexual confidence, as any carnal cowgirl will admit, is that you need a little to begin with before it can blossom into a natural part of your passion personality. So how do you start? "Fake it at first — that's what I did," admits Bari, a 25-year-old designer. "My now-boyfriend was a coworker of mine whom I had a massive crush on. So I mentally made over my attitude from mousy staffer to office tramp, asked him out for a beer, and let my inner sex goddess loose. Six months of incredible action later, I still haven't reined in that attitude."

4. "I speak up for myself in the sack."
On-fire femmes know that men love to please. But even the most perceptive guy in the world won't have your moan zones all mapped out. "I tell my partners how I want to be touched," says Eliza, a 29-year-old psychologist. "Then I giggle and scream to reinforce what he's doing. I let guys know how to send me soaring."

If you're not used to being so erotically expressive, clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. Compliment him on what he does do well, then add a subtle suggestion: "It turns me on so much when you kiss my breasts, I'd go wild if you put your hand between my legs too."

Remember: This is the electronic age; email can also be an erotic way to detail your desire directions. "My man's usual sex style — fast thrusting — was too rough. So I sent him a sexy message saying I was imagining him rocking me to a gentle, slo-mo climax," recalls Marion, 24, a real estate agent. "That night, he begged me for a demo. He loved the lighter touch, and now we go slow each time." 

5. "It's not if I have an orgasm — it's how."
Women who ooze erotic energy don't view their Big O as a lucky bonus. Instead, reaching the pleasure pinnacle is their right. "Men don't consider it sex unless they have an orgasm," explains Maria, a 27-year-old sales assistant. "So why should I settle for almost-but-not-quite?" "I wish every woman would tattoo I deserve great sex on her brain," says Gina Ogden, Ph.D., author of Women Who Love Sex (Womanspirit, 1999). "Sexual satisfaction is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't expect to be peeled off the ceiling, it won't happen." So start believing that every-time orgasms aren't elusive rewards reserved for select women — they're yours for the taking. "Once I became confident I would be able to come, I started having earth-shaking climaxes," confirms Stephanie, a 23-year-old teaching assistant.

6. "I've mastered one signature sex move."
"Most women try to please their partners with direct below-the-belt stimulation, so I devote my time to a guy's lesser-known erogenous areas," explains Mary, a 26-year-old jewelry designer. Her favorite place: that fleshy, supersensual web of skin between the thumb and finger. "Most guys I've dated don't even know about this hot spot."

Lust fiends like Mary know that mastering at least one unique, naughty-but-nice move can morph you from a hot-and-heavy lover to holy moly! sex-partner status. But you don't have to focus on his G-rated hot spots alone or a specific sexual act. Your signature style can be about invoking an entire mood: sweetly simple, daring and dirty, or pushing the erotic envelope.s

Best Sex Position, kama sutra

Erotic Instructions:

Start with your guy sitting on the bench with his knees bent and legs slightly spread, leaning back with his arms outstretched and resting on the edge of the tub. Straddle him, facing forward, and lower yourself onto his penis, holding on to his shoulders for support. Keep your knees bent and feet flat as you move up and down or back and forth.

Why You'll Love It:

The space between your torsos allows both of you to watch the action. There's also room for pelvic play, so you can maximize clitoral stimulation by rubbing your bliss button against his pubic bone as you gyrate.

 

 

 

 

 

The Hot Seat

Erotic Instructions:

Have your partner kneel behind you, but tell him to lean slightly backward. With your back to him, you kneel in front of him, your legs between his. Your bodies should be squeezed together tightly. Wrap his arms around your waist and put your hands wherever you want (his forearms, hips, etc). Once he’s inside you, move up and down or swivel your hips in a circular motion in tandem, stopping to take breaks when you get too worked up or tired.

Why You'll Love It:

Since he’s tilting back, he has G-spot access. And this position allows for intense pressure since you’re meshing your butt super snugly with his groin.

 

The Soft Rock

Erotic Instructions:

Try this tantalizing twist on the typical missionary position (him on top, you on bottom). Instead of having your man rest on his elbows, ask him to slide two to four inches forward. Have him place his arms on either side of your shoulders, letting his body fall flat against yours. Make sure you both keep your spines straight. With your legs touching his, push your pelvis up about two inches. Your man should push down gently, providing a little counter-resistance. Instead of the usual in-and-out of thrusting, rock up and down.

Why You'll Love It:

Okay, so missionary doesn’t always make you quake. But because he’s in a more forward position, the base of his penis should naturally rub your clitoris. The rocking motion draws out the orgasm, building pleasure gradually. Because both sets of genitals are sharing such tight quarters, your climb to the climax will be intensified.

 

Lap Dance

Erotic Instructions:

Find a tall-backed chair — such as one from your kitchen table or a desk — pad it with some pillows, and sit him down. Straddle his hardened member and lean back slightly, placing your hands on his knees. Extend your legs, one at a time, until each of your ankles is resting on one of his corresponding shoulders. Pump your booty back and forth at a speed that makes you moan. To supercharge your thrusting power, balance your weight between your ankles and your hands.

Why You'll Love It:

The Lap Dance has unmatched intimacy potential — how many people have seen you this close? This primo erotic view will give your guy fantasy material for weeks to come. Spice it up with some extra-special lingerie that you can seductively toss to turn him on to add even more steam to this sack session.

 

 

Sexy Ways to Tease Him

IN PUBLIC
While ordering dinner, caress up his leg as high as you can get away with. If you’re feeling superdaring, reach inside his pants, and slip a hair tie around his penis — this gutsy move will keep him slightly stimulated all night.

People in crowded elevators usually look straight ahead, so sneakily grind your body against his or slide your palm over his butt while your unsuspecting co-riders watch the floors tick by.

If you're out together at a party or bar, send him either a scandalous text that hints at what you’d like to do to him later or, if you're a shier sexter, a corny line like "Nice shirt — it'll look better on the floor." Just knowing you have booty on the brain will have him aching to get you alone.

AROUND THE HOUSE
Catch him off guard by wondering aloud about places you could get busy. Ask something like "Hmmm, do you think this countertop would be the right height for me to straddle you?" then wander off as if it were just a fleeting idea.

Men are aroused by visual stimuli, so a nonverbal come-on can make him hungry. Toy with him by bending slowly to pick up something in a short skirt or blow-drying your hair in jeans and a bra. Act like you don’t know he’s watching — it’ll arouse the hell out of him.

When he has friends over, yell from another room that you need help with something. When he enters, give him a deep kiss and graze his package. Then halt the grope sesh, and make him return to his guests like a good boy.
 
IN BED

As things get going, leave on one item of clothing. Pulling your thong aside for him to enter you torments him because he can’t see every last inch of your body. It also creates gotta-have-you-now urgency that is just so hot.

Slowly head downtown with playful licks that start at his chest and move down his stomach. Trace your fingers up and down his torso as you kiss in circles around his groin and inner thighs — everywhere except his package — until he’s begging you to take him into your mouth.

If you’re on top during sex, stop the action, then crawl down his body until you’re perched at the end of the bed. Give him a “Want it? Then come and get it!” grin. Then prepare to be pounced on.

25 Hottest Sex Tips Ever

1. Play Up His Deep Pockets

When he's least expecting it, tell your man you need some change. Then stick your hand in his pocket and touch his penis through the fabric, pretending that you're really digging around for that coinage you need. When he's good and hard, whisper something in his ear like, "Is that a roll of quarters in your pocket or are you just glad to see me?" He'll practically bust out of his pants. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

2. Pop His Cork

Try the oral-sex technique “The Screw.” As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum — that part of the shaft just beneath the head — be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down — you're also going sideways. It's 3-D! —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

3. Get Dirty in the Tub

Before you get it on, take a bath together. Bring out the candles and fluffy towels, then put two drops of patchouli oil, three drops of sandalwood oil, and three drops of lavender oil into your bathwater. Patchouli and sandalwood are awakens sensuality, and lavender induces relaxation. The combination of scents and warm-water sensations will completely prime your bodies — and minds. For a truly sensual and erotic experience try this water-friendly sex position. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

4. Strut Your Stuff

The next time you go out with your man, wear your sexiest outfit. Sometimes you have to remind your guy that you're a prize, not an appendage. It really turns most guys on to know they have someone other men want to be with. And it can be a tremendous ego boost for you, too. When you feel sexy, you are sexy. Once you return home from your diva-date, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

5. Touch Yourself... With His Penis

Shake up your pre-sex routine by pressing his penis against surprising parts of your body. Try these frisky ideas. Hold his penis against your inner thigh to tease him like crazy; touch the tip of his penis against your breast, and rub his frenulum against your nipple; or bring the side of his shaft against the outside of one of your cheeks, then put it up to your lips and cover it with wet kisses. —Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes 

6. Unhand Your Man

Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, slowly undress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. Then, keeping your hands at your side or behind your back, stroke his body (all except for his penis) with your face, hair, and breasts. Once he's totally relaxed, rub your breasts against his penis and he'll happily rise to the occasion. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

7.Try Finger-Food Foreplay

Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something sensual about placing food in your partner's mouth. After a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

8. Love Your Booty

Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body. If this feels awkward, get ready or blow out your hair while standing naked in front of the mirror. By getting used to your unique shape, you'll gain confidence that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your guy. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

9. Slip into a Naughty Costume

Try one of these outfits since they'll help you get in the moment. If you’re feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton undie set or sexy lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or don a schoolgirl-like plaid miniskirt with an oxford shirt tied above your navel. To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and inspiration. —Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off

10. Pleasure His Penis

Cup your hand around his member, creating a "bun" around his "hot dog." Then kiss the part of his penis that's exposed while breathing hard. Your hand will trap your exhalations and make his penis feel superhot. With your other hand, work his testicles. He'll think he has died and gone to heaven. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

11. Keep Your Pants On

Encourage your man to touch you when you have your favorite tight jeans on (and don't let him take them off). His hand can glide over your crotch more easily, and the material will transmit the sensations over a wider area. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

12. Toy with Him

Stock up on sex toys like velvet-lined handcuffs and silk blindfolds. You can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it. It will feel amazing for you, and he'll be turned on just by seeing you so turned on. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

13. Pucker Up

Share a passionate 10-second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex but stop really kissing. And that's a shame, because it's such a wonderful, intimate act. So just go up and lay one on him. Instantly, you'll feel passionate instead of platonic. What a rush! —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

14. Touch a (Sensual) Nerve

One of the most explosive nerves in the body is located at the top of the inner thigh. Start by licking your finger (the wetness increases the stimulation) and slowly drawing it from the mid–inner thigh to the top. Then follow the path you just traced with your tongue, teasing your way to the upper region. Because the skin here is tender, it's important to watch how he reacts. If he flinches, you're exciting the nerve to the point where it feels too ticklish. If he flinches, give the area firmer kisses. —Lori Buckley, PhD, of The Better Sex Video Series

15. Have Hotel Sex at Home

Try re-creating the away-from-home atmosphere in your own bedroom. Buy sheets with the highest threads-per-inch count you can find (look for 200 and above), and invest in some thick, fluffy robes to lounge around in. You'll both feel like you're on an incredible vacation from the rest of the world.
—Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

16. Make It a Quickie

If you're turned on at an inopportune time and in semi-public place, act on your feelings. Although it feels a little bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have affairs solely for the illicit rush from doing something "bad." Quickies allow you to experience all of the having-an-affair thrill with none of the cheating. —Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss

17. Keep Your Eyes Open

Watching his every move while you’re hooking up is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during foreplay. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. You'll experience your orgasm in a totally different way. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

18. Tune in to His Heartbeat

You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Lay your hand on his chest, and have him do the same. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand-to-heart connected while you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other. —Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential

19. Give Him Props

Great sex is all about angles — the angle of his erection and your pelvis determine exactly what hot spots he'll hit and how tightly he'll feel gripped. That's why pillows can be passion's best friend. Try one under his butt while you're on top or supporting your tailbone in the missionary position. You'll be surprised how many new sensations you both experience just by adding a pillow. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On 

20. Let Go Loudly!

Moan, let out animalistic noises or shout his name — whatever you have the urge to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make him feel like the stud of the universe. Bonus: Your orgasms will be even more powerful if you really let 'er rip vocally. —Susan Block, PhD, sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure

21. Just Add Lube

Your guy has what it takes to get you off, but there's one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable. And because you're wetter, he’ll feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions. —Eric Garrison, author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex

22. Turn-Around... and Turn Him On

Face his legs instead of his face when you're on top. (Hold on to his feet for balance.) He'll get a great view of your backside — a surefire turn-on. And if his erection points straight out instead of up, this position will feel especially incredible to him. —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On

23. Be the Boss in Bed

Tell your guy to lie down, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you. Next, you want to torture him playfully with your teasing. Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck. As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad. Once he’s pleaded his case allow him to take over. —Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do

24. Don't Wait to Exhale

You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm. With each exhalation, imagine that you're pushing the satisfying sensations throughout your body — instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel the orgasm from head to toe. —Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex

25. Maximize Each Moment

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4 Things to Never Joke About With Your Man

For most guys, a kick-ass sense of humor in a woman ranks right up there with a nice rack. And though we pride ourselves on being able to take ribbing as well as we dish it out, some material is just no laughing matter to us. Consider the following subjects unsuitable comic fodder.
His Future Hair Loss
With the exception of Hollywood types like Vin Diesel, most guys with shiny chrome domes are not deemed the sexiest man alive. That's why many guys stress about potential future loss. And if there's even a hint of thinning, it's certain to be a really sore subject. "I once had a date joke that I better grab a hat because it was chilly outside and she didn't want my scalp to catch a cold," says Rich*, 30. "Look I know my lid is starting to look a little lean, but I don't need a woman reminding me…even if it's in jest."

His Paltry Payback
Yes, it's a little Stone Age, but we men consider it our manly obligation to bring home the bacon. When our salary doesn't stack up, we feel totally emasculated. It's like we measure our worth in a relationship to our wallet (or at least we think you do). So you can see why kidding around about your sugar-mama status isn't exactly our idea of stand-up. "I know it's wrong, but I'm embarrassed that my girlfriend outearns me," admits Andrew, 28. "She once made a quip about letting me stay home Mr.Mom -style while she supported us, and I lost it. We've since come to an understanding that until I hit the lottery or open my own restaurant, money is something that can't be taken lightly." Bottom line: It's not that we don't appreciate your alpha-female status. We just don't want to be your beta boy toy.

His Mom
It's a rule that dates back to the playgroud: Once you start dissing a boy's mother, things are going to get ugly. Sure, he's allowed to goof on her Hawaiian muumuus, burned Bundt cake, and obsession with Richard Simmons, but when you chime in, it's a different story. "I love my mom to death. She's a total character," says Josh, 30. "I bust on her nonstop, and she gives it right back to me. But if my girlfriend added her two cents, I'd find it totally disrespectful." Bonus tip: Sisters are untouchable too.
His Member
In a nutshell, keep Johnson jokes to yourself—especially if you ever want his penis to come out to play again. Our "boys" are serious business. There's nothing comedic about commentary on any of the following: size (or more accurately, lack thereof), shape, and color. Just ask Bill, 26: "I'm sensitive about the fact that my package is a shade darker than the rest of my flesh. I was once with a girl who took one look, giggled, and named him the Dark Horse. It made me so self-conscious that I couldn't perform." Your best bet? Stay mute about his member…unless you feel compelled to characterize it as monstrous.
*Names have been changed.

 

12 Romance Rituals to Start

Sex and love adivce , relationship article " Keep romance alive"

 

1. Dream Up a Hot Vacation
Get out of your cold-weather rut by fantasizing about a sexy European getaway with your guy. While the two of you are sipping coffee and sharing the Sunday paper, take a detour to the travel section. Grab your guy’s attention by reading an irresistible description of some totally romantic locale (charming old cities, a lush green countryside, gorgeous sunsets, and delicious local dishes should capture his attention pretty quickly). Then start concocting your own ultimate escape together.
2. Be Spontaneous About Your Dinner Dates
Excited to go out to eat but can't pick a place? Start by making a list of some restaurants in your town — include a few you know you like and several that you want to try. Then write the name of each on the back of a scrap of paper, fold it in half, and drop it into an empty bowl. From now on, instead of going back and forth about where to eat on a Friday or Saturday night, just draw a name from the bowl and embrace the surprise.
3. Create Mood Music
Sunday nights can leave you and your man with a sinking feeling about the upcoming workweek. But why ruin those last hours of freedom when they could be romantic? Here’s what to do: Create a couple's play list of good-time tunes that you can crank up anytime to change the vibe from sullen to sexy. Each of you contributes your favorite upbeat songs; call it your Sunday mix. Every few weeks, delete the ones you’re sick of and add some new hits.
4. Plan Two Hot Dates with Him
Instead of orchestrating a perfect evening you’ll both love, make a deal that you’ll do whatever he wants one night as long as he does the same for you the other night. Even if he plans an über–guyfriendly date (you know, Beirut at the sports bar followed by Texas BBQ), it’s all good. Just think, you’ll finally get him to take you to that cute new café you’ve been eyeing, and afterward you can curl up and watch season one of True Blood on DVD.
5. Have a Sexy Sleepover
Sometime this week, e-mail your guy, and tell him to reserve Friday night but not to worry about coming up with a date idea — you’ll plan everything. Then, before he shows up, turn your place into a low-key bed-and-breakfast with fresh linens on the bed, the ingredients for his drink of choice, and a season of his favorite TV show on DVD. Once he arrives, order delivery for dinner, and get in “do not disturb” mode by turning off your cell phones. We trust you know the rest.
6. Partake in an Intimate Picnic
Eat outside Parisian-style in the park with your guy on the next nice weekend afternoon. Buy some Brie, chèvre, or mimolette (a tasty, hard French cheese), fruit, a baguette, and Georges Duboeuf Beaujolais (a delicious French wine that comes in cute mini fourpacks — the perfect picnic size). Glam up the meal by bringing wineglasses and china plates. Then spread out a blanket on the grass and take turns feeding each other, while you soak up the sunshine.

7. Treat Him to a Rubdown
In the middle of the day, shoot your guy the following text: “Hot date tonight. 8 pm sharp." When he shows up, dim the lights, put on some chill tunes, and ask him to lie facedown on your couch or bed (oh, and the shirt’s gotta come off). Once he’s in relax mode, give him a nice, long back rub with massage oil. (Tip: Guys tend to prefer earthy scented oils, like pine and eucalyptus, rather than rosy ones). This special treatment will remind him that he’s one hell of a lucky guy to have you.
8. Take a Steamy Bath Together
Showering solo is so 9 to 5. When you have a lazy weekend morning, take advantage of it. While he’s still in bed, run the water, light a few candles for atmosphere, and cue up a chill playlist from your iPod. Then wake him up with a gentle kiss, lure him into the bathroom, and use a sweet-smelling scrub to rub each other down.
9. Plan an All-Out Date on the Town
Make your next date night extra-special for no reason in particular. Dress up in your sexiest cocktail attire, ask him to don a suit, and head off on a romantic rendezvous. Check out a wine tasting in your area (localwineevents.com has a listing by city), then splurge on a fancy meal or a decadent dessert at a nice restaurant.
10. Bond Over Cooking Together
Preparing a meal together can really help you connect. Start by finding an easy but special recipe, and forget the usual routine of who-does-what in the kitchen. All that time spent chopping and simmering is conducive to catching up after a chaotic workweek.
11. Play a Passionate Game
Challenge your man to a retro board game — think Life or Trouble — or a round of bowling or minigolf and it’ll light a spark between you two. Getting competitive eliminates weekday stress, encourages flirting, and builds sexual fervor. Hint: Make a bet that the loser has to give the winner a full-body massage.
12. Take Him on a “Boys’ Night Out”
Treat your boyfriend or hubby to a date that's all about him. Text him Friday morning, and tell him to leave the night open. Then pick him up from work, and whisk him away to a burger joint where you can dig into some red meat together and enjoy a few beers. Follow it up with tickets to a basketball game or a movie he’s been dying to see.